Your Worth Is Not Determined By Your Appearance: A Guide To Self-Love
In the world of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), survivors often face a harsh reality that their value is often tied to their looks.
The price they receive can be determined by their skin color, weight, hair, tattoos, and even their height.
But stepping outside of that world opens the door to a new understanding: your worth should never be determined by your appearance. Even in a world filled with highly edited photos and videos, letting go of the belief that your looks define your value can be challenging.
Unlearning this mindset may seem daunting, but it all begins with realizing your worth and embracing your true self.
Self-worth is how you value yourself. It isn't based on what others think of you, your looks, or your accomplishments. It comes from within.
So how can we shift from identifying ourselves by what we do to who we truly are?
For many survivors, this realization doesn't come all at once. It happens through gradual shifts in perception and practice. Here are some practices that can help you remember your unconditional worth and create a beautifully fulfilled and blessed life:
1. Openness
Being willing to accept and embrace what comes your way, believing that it is for your own highest good and the collective good, can empower you. It releases the urge to control and allows you to connect with your inner truth. Focus on being present and mindful.
2. Choice and Perspective
Remember that in any situation or experience, you have the choice to view it through the lens of fear or love. This is especially true when you put your full self out there in your career, relationships, and passions. Choosing a loving mindset encourages you to remain open, curious, and detached from attaching your worth to the outcome. Embrace the journey, knowing that your worth is not tied to external factors.
3. Asking for What You Need
It's essential to understand that it's okay and necessary to say "no" sometimes and to ask for help. Your worth as a person is not diminished by seeking support. In fact, it creates space for you to shine your light and allows others to step into their own light as well. Taking care of yourself is a powerful act of self-love.
4. Surrender vs. Striving
As human beings, we often fall into the trap of constantly pushing ourselves, filling our time unnecessarily, and getting caught up in the hustle for worthiness. But instead of beating yourself up and digging a deeper hole, try taking a deep breath and surrendering. Ask for guidance from the Universe, then listen and trust what comes to you. When you fully commit to this practice, you'll likely feel a wave of calm wash over you almost instantly.
Remember, the search for worthiness outside of yourself is chaotic and fruitless. Slow down, listen to your body and soul's cravings, and commit to embracing all that you are. Your journey back to your true nature—peace and happiness—is about recognizing that your worth is entirely up to you. You are worthy simply because you say you are and because you believe it. Look within and trust that you are enough.
If you are struggling with this journey of self-love and self-worth, we want you to know that you are not alone. At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we are here to support you every step of the way. We invite you to join our Survivor Support Group, a safe space where we come together, support each other, and find healing. The group meets every Thursday from 3:30-5pm at OPS located at 112 SW 157th St, Burien, WA 98166. You'll be surrounded by others who understand and value your unique journey towards self-love and reclaiming your worth.
Together, we can break free from the chains of external validation and embrace our inherent worth, no longer defined by our appearance or what we can do. You are deserving of love, respect, and a life filled with joy and fulfillment.
