DV Awareness in CSE & Resources to help

October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a crucial time to spotlight the intricate and often intertwined issues of domestic violence and Commercial Sexual Exploitation (CSE). The connection between domestic violence and sex trafficking is substantial and undeniable, with the modalities of trauma deeply woven into the lives of those impacted by both. This connection is not coincidental—many traffickers exploit the vulnerabilities created by domestic abuse to manipulate, control, and further subjugate their victims.

Both abusers and traffickers employ devastatingly similar tactics to exert control over their people, including psychological manipulation, physical abuse, sexual violence, financial control, and substance use coercion. Recognizing the shared dynamics between domestic violence and CSE is paramount in providing effective support and championing the rights of survivors. Nearly 40% of individuals trafficked for sex report that their relationships with their traffickers began as intimate partnerships, blurring the lines between partner violence and systemic exploitation.

Unfortunately, it's common for individuals entrenched in the traumatic web of trafficking to initially seek help addressing domestic violence, particularly when their trafficker is also a partner. This overlapping of abuse highlights the need for comprehensive support systems that recognize the multifaceted nature of such exploitation.

In King County, the Department of Community and Human Services acknowledges these complexities and has curated a robust list of resources aimed at providing survivors with the support needed to navigate their circumstances. These resources extend beyond immediate relief and delve into harm reduction, behavioral health, legal advocacy, and comprehensive support services that cater to the holistic needs of survivors.

For anyone facing these challenges, help is readily accessible through a variety of platforms:

• 24/7 Helplines:

• DVHopeline (King County Domestic Violence Hotline), Call 206-737-0242 or 877-737-0242

• National Domestic Violence Hotline Call 800-799-7233

• King County Resources:

• Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services: Empowering Deaf and DeafBlind survivors. Contact: 206-812-1001, adwas@adwas.org

• API Chaya: For survivors of gender-based violence. Contact: 206-467-9976, info@apichaya.org

• LifeWire, New Beginnings, Ingersoll Gender Center, and many more providing targeted and nuanced support.

The full list of resources and additional details can be accessed through the dedicated blog post at King County’s Department of Community and Human Services blog.

Awareness and proactive community involvement are pivotal in combating domestic violence and CSE. Let’s stand together this October—and every day thereafter—to support survivors, amplify their voices, and create safer, more resilient communities where abuse and exploitation have no place.

Remember, you are not alone, and together, we can and will make a difference.

Grounding Yourself

Finding Your Ground: A Survivor's Guide to Grounding Yourself

In moments when the world feels like it's spinning out of control, finding a way to ground ourselves can be a beacon of hope in the fog of distress. As survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), engaging in grounding practices can bring a sense of peace and stability amidst the chaos. Remember, you're not alone, and your feelings are valid. Let's explore together some gentle, empowering ways to reconnect with yourself.

Embrace the Earth: Walking Barefoot

There’s a unique kind of healing that comes from connecting with nature. Walking barefoot allows you to feel the earth beneath you - its solidity, its energy. Whether it's the cool grass, the warm sand, or the soothing mud, each step can be a reminder of your connection to the world. Let every step you take on the earth be a step towards healing.

Breathe Deeply: A Breath of Fresh Air

Breath is life, and sometimes, the simple act of breathing deeply can feel like a lifeline. This practice doesn’t require any special tools or environments – whether you’re at work, on the move, or in the midst of daily tasks. Focus on the sensation of your breath in different parts of your body — the rise and fall of your abdomen, the air flowing in and out of your nostrils. This can be a powerful anchor during turbulent times.

Mindful Presence: The Body Scan

Creating a moment of peace can be as simple as performing a body scan. Try this three-minute body scan:

Sit comfortably, take a deep breath in and out, and close your eyes.

Starting at the top of your head, gently scan down through your body, noticing what feels comfortable and what feels uncomfortable.

Remember, you're not trying to change anything, just observing, and bringing awareness. This practice invites a compassionate acknowledgment of whatever you're feeling, physically and emotionally, without judgment.

Healing Through Words: Journaling

Sometimes, the swirling thoughts and emotions inside us find clarity when given a voice on paper. Journaling offers a private, safe space to express your thoughts and feelings. This act of self-reflection can be a profound step towards understanding and processing your emotions, leading to moments of realization and relief.

The Power of Now: The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique

Grounding can also come from fully immersing yourself in the present moment, using the 5-4-3-2-1 technique. It involves identifying 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. This method gently pulls your focus back to the here and now, helping to calm spiraling thoughts and overwhelming emotions. Pay full attention to your surroundings and the tasks at hand, anchoring yourself firmly in the moment.

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we recognize the unique journeys of each survivor. In sharing these grounding techniques, we hope to offer tools that can be adapted and personalized to fit your needs and experiences. Your path to healing is yours to walk, but remember, you don't have to walk it alone. For more tools and tips like this, join us every Tuesday from 1-2 pm during our drop-in hours for an empowering session of Movement & Mindfulness!

OPS is here to support you, providing a community of compassion, understanding, and hope. Together, we can find strength in grounding, resilience in recovery, and the power of our collective healing journeys.

Why We Move Beyond the Word "Rescue" in Understanding Sex Trafficking and CSE

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors, our communication is as intentional as our support. One concept we critically unpack is the notion of “rescue” often associated with the experiences of those surviving sex trafficking and commercial sexual exploitation (CSE). The imagery of a dramatic rescue, where survivors are swiftly lifted from their situations of exploitation, is pervasive. Yet, this depiction simplifies an incredibly complex reality and doesn't honor the fullness of survivors' experiences.

Understanding the Complexity

The journey of each survivor is unique. The psychological, emotional, and social dynamics involved in trafficking and CSE are intricate. Many survivors experience what is known as trauma bonding—strong emotional attachments formed to a trafficker, often as a survival strategy in navigating daily horrors. This can mean that the reaction of a survivor to interventions may not be what others expect, which includes the possibility of returning to their exploiter.

The Limitations of "Rescue"

Labeling these interventions as "rescue" operations can create harmful misconceptions. It can skew the public’s understanding of both the nature of traffickers, who often wield control through psychological manipulation rather than physical chains alone, and the response of survivors. Such misconceptions can hinder appropriate identification of survivors and may impair legal proceedings against traffickers, as juries might expect a stereotype—such as a survivor visibly restrained—rather than understanding the nuanced realities of repeated departures and returns.

Beyond Simplification to Empowerment

The narrative of simply "saving" someone does not encompass the requisite comprehensive, survivor-centered, and trauma-informed approach needed. Advocating for "rescue" overlooks the profound expertise required in supporting individuals as they navigate the path to reclaiming their lives. It doesn't account for the essential ongoing support systems, the need for empowerment and agency restoring activities, and the comprehensive care mechanisms that honor their journey.

Evolving Our Language

To foster a more accurate understanding and support system, we propose shifting from the term "rescue" to "support" and "assistance." This emphasizes the active role of survivors in their path to recovery and highlights the structured, informed support systems they need.

Survivors of trafficking and CSE don’t need to be saved; they deserve empowering support as they work towards exiting these oppressive situations. This involves accessing a spectrum of services—legal, medical, psychological, educational—which support their healing and rebuilding, at their pace and according to their individual choices.

Our Commitment

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors, we are committed to respecting and upholding the dignity, strength, and agency of survivors. Our language is a reflection of our unwavering support and belief in the resilience and potential of every individual we serve. Through education, advocacy, and direct services, we remain dedicated to dismantling the systems of oppression and supporting survivors in a journey that respects their voice and choice at every step.

In changing our language, we change the conversation. And in changing the conversation, we hope to more effectively contribute to a world where every individual's rights and humanity are respected and upheld. Let us continue this crucial conversation, embracing terms that empower and define the path forward with hope and resilience.

Official Statement from the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS) Regarding Prostitution Loitering Ordinance/ SOAP law

The Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS) expresses grave concern regarding the proposed Prostitution Loitering Ordinance/ SOAP legislation outlined in agenda items by Council Members Moore and Kettle. While we recognize the intent to address commercial sexual exploitation and the surrounding violence, we firmly believe that the proposed measures will disproportionately harm the very individuals they claim to protect—those who are already among the most vulnerable and marginalized in our society. 

Survivors of exploitation are not the perpetrators of violence, yet this legislation seems poised to impact them most severely. By criminalizing loitering and establishing exclusion zones, the ordinance would push those engaged in survival sex and those being sexually exploited further into the shadows. The most marginalized—particularly Black, Brown, and Indigenous individuals, as well as those living in extreme poverty—will be disproportionately targeted, harassed, and punished. Displacing these individuals from public spaces does not enhance community safety; it only renders them invisible, increasing their vulnerability to violence and exploitation in hidden and isolated locations. 

Survivors often require multiple attempts to escape from their abusers or traffickers successfully. Instead of criminalizing these individuals, we must offer them the support they need to make lasting changes in their lives. By forcing people out of public spaces and into secluded areas, the proposed legislation exacerbates their victimization and reduces their access to critical services and support. Currently, one of the greatest challenges for survivors is having a safe place to go once they’ve decided to leave. 

History, both in Seattle and other cities, has shown that punitive measures like these do not effectively reduce crime or exploitation. Instead, they often cause greater harm to those in precarious situations. We urge the city to adopt a more compassionate and supportive approach—a restorative approach that centers on the needs and voices of survivors. While we agree on the necessity of comprehensive law enforcement training, it is crucial that these trainings are facilitated by survivor-led organizations like OPS, ensuring that they are informed by lived experiences and prioritize the well-being of survivors. 

Investing in grassroots, community-driven, and survivor-led organizations is not just important—it’s vital. These organizations, including ours, have the knowledge and experience to offer meaningful support and create pathways for those seeking to escape exploitation. Yet, despite their critical role, they remain chronically underfunded. Rather than diverting resources away from social services, the city should strengthen the capacity of these organizations to meet the increasing demand for supportive services. This approach would address the root causes of exploitation and provide real solutions by expanding options and accessibility, rather than imposing restrictions and punitive measures. 

No one should be criminalized for “selling sex.” Instead, a pre-filing diversion program within County facilities should be offered to reduce recidivism and provide resources for sustainable change and success. It is also vital to address the harm caused by past charges and ensure that no more victims or survivors are criminalized under this statute. Increased opportunities for record vacatur should be provided for those previously charged and impacted by the system. 

Furthermore, while the legislation includes measures against buyers and traffickers, we believe that more serious efforts must be made to hold these individuals accountable. Funding is also needed in this area. The demand for commercial sex drives the exploitation and trafficking of vulnerable individuals. Any legislative approach should include robust and enforceable measures against buyers and those who profit from exploiting the vulnerable, ensuring they face significant consequences for their actions. However, it is equally important to provide diversion services that offer these individuals the opportunity to change their behavior and contribute to dismantling the systems of exploitation. By combining accountability with avenues for rehabilitation, we can more effectively address the root causes of exploitation. 

In conclusion, we call on the Seattle City Council to reconsider portions of this legislation. We urge the Council to rewrite this policy to allow for workable solutions that genuinely protect and empower those most at risk. OPS and our partner organizations stand ready to collaborate with city officials, community members, and other stakeholders to develop comprehensive strategies that address the complexities of sexual exploitation, tackle violence and threats to public safety, and provide meaningful support for survivors.

Stay Cool This Summer: Tips, Programs, and Resources for Seattle Residents

As the temperatures continue to climb this week, with forecasts predicting they could soar into the 100s next month, finding ways to stay cool and safe is more crucial than ever.

Seattle is bracing for the heat, providing numerous cooling centers in locations that include libraries, select wading pools, other water amenities, and the Seattle Center, anticipated to open its doors this month. These centers are essential for those seeking relief from the heat. To find the nearest cooling spot and get the most up-to-date information on available resources across the region, visit kcrha.org/severe-weather.

Non-medical Tips for Beating the Heat

Here are some practical and non-medical suggestions to help you keep cool and protect yourself during the scorching days ahead:

• Stay Hydrated: Always carry a water bottle with you to ensure you stay hydrated throughout the day.

• Cooling Techniques: Applying wet towels or shirts around your neck can offer instant relief from the heat.

• Sun Exposure: Be mindful of the time you spend in direct sunlight. It's easier to get sunburned than you might think.

• Dress Appropriately: Opt for light-colored and lightweight clothing to keep cool and shield yourself from the sun's rays.

• Shade Your Space: Keep blinds or curtains closed during the day if your space receives a lot of sunshine and fails to catch a breeze.

These sweltering conditions pose a significant challenge, especially for individuals with limited resources or access to cooling solutions. We encourage everyone to reach out if you need support or ideas for assisting those who are struggling to stay safe in this heatwave. Your safety and hydration are paramount, and we aim to remain as flexible as possible in addressing the challenges brought on by the heat.

Financial Assistance for Staying Cool

Concerned about the climbing electricity bills from your efforts to stay cool? We have some good news that might ease your worries.

$200 Off Your Electricity Bill

When: Application deadline is September 15, 2024.

What: Households paying their electricity bills may be eligible for a one-time $200 credit if they meet certain income requirements. Applying for this credit is designed to be straightforward.

How to Apply: For more details and to apply, visit Clean Energy Credits for Washington Families.

For additional information, you can download Seattle City Light's presentation on WA Families Clean Energy Credits.

Air Conditioning Units Through Energy Assistance Programs

Alert: Make plans to keep your home cool this summer by applying for a new air conditioning unit. The deadline to apply for our energy assistance programs — including the Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program (LIHEAP) and the Puget Sound Energy Home Energy Lifeline Program (PSE HELP) — is July 31. These programs not only help with paying your energy bill but also offer the chance to receive a new A/C unit.

Their energy assistance efforts are geared towards supporting low-income households in managing their energy bills, refilling oil tanks, as well as repairing or replacing furnaces, and providing new air conditioning units. By participating in either LIHEAP, PSE HELP, or both, you're taking a step towards maintaining a comfortable home temperature throughout the scorching summer months.

To apply, visit: Byrd Barr Place Energy Assistance Programs.

Taking advantage of these resources and tips can greatly ease the discomfort of the summer heat. Stay cool, stay hydrated, and explore the available assistance programs to ensure you and your loved ones can weather the heat safely and comfortably.

Building Self-Esteem: A Path Towards Healing and Empowerment for CSE Survivors

Finding the road to healing after surviving commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) is not an easy journey. It takes immense strength and courage to overcome the trauma endured. One crucial aspect of this healing process is building self-esteem.

By understanding trauma, practicing positive affirmations, challenging negative thoughts, embracing mindfulness, seeking social support, and engaging in therapy, CSE survivors can rebuild their self-esteem and reclaim their inherent worth and power. Today, we explore various strategies that can empower survivors on their path towards healing.

Understanding Trauma:

Processing traumatic experiences is a crucial step towards reducing feelings of guilt, shame, and self-blame. Acknowledging and validating emotions can help survivors let go of the burdens they carry and start to heal from within. At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we believe in creating a safe and supportive environment to facilitate this journey of self-discovery and healing.

Positive Affirmations:

The power of positive self-talk cannot be underestimated. By replacing negative thoughts with positive affirmations, survivors can gradually shift their perspective and embrace self-compassion. At OPS, we provide tools and resources to empower survivors to cultivate a positive internal dialogue, reminding them of their strength and resilience.

Challenging Negative Thoughts:

Recognizing unhelpful thoughts and challenging them is a transformative process. OPS encourages survivors to question the negative beliefs that may have arisen from their experiences in CSE. By disputing these thoughts and seeking evidence to the contrary, survivors can gradually rebuild their self-esteem and reclaim their narrative.

Embracing Mindfulness:

Mindfulness practices can promote greater self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-regulation. Engaging in activities such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help survivors reconnect with their bodies and minds, fostering a sense of control and grounding. OPS offers trauma-informed mindfulness sessions to support survivors in their journey towards self-discovery.

Seeking Social Support:

No survivor should walk their healing path alone. Social support plays a crucial role in boosting self-esteem and providing a sense of togetherness. Whether through support groups, survivor networks, or close friendships, OPS provides CSE survivors with safe spaces to connect, share experiences, and uplift one another.

Therapy as a Tool for Healing:

Therapy can be particularly beneficial for survivors who prefer a space to talk about their feelings. OPS offers a range of therapeutic services tailored to meet the unique needs of CSE survivors. Our compassionate therapists employ trauma-informed approaches to help survivors process their experiences and rebuild their self-esteem in a safe and nurturing environment.

Rediscovering Joy and Fulfillment:

In addition to the strategies mentioned above, it is essential for survivors to reconnect with activities and relationships that once brought them joy and fulfillment. Cultivating moments of happiness can serve as a powerful reminder of their capacity for joy and reinforce their self-esteem. Whether it's catching up with an old friend or re-engaging in a beloved hobby, OPS supports survivors in rediscovering their passions and rekindling a sense of purpose.

Building self-esteem is a vital aspect of the journey towards healing and empowerment for survivors of CSE. At OPS, we stand alongside survivors, offering comprehensive support services that encompass understanding trauma, positive affirmations, challenging negative thoughts, mindfulness practices, social support, therapy, and rediscovering joy and fulfillment. We believe in your resilience, strength, and capacity to heal. Together, we can create a world where all survivors are empowered to reclaim their lives and thrive.

The Power of Self-Care: Nurturing Well-Being for CSE Survivors

Recovery from commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) is a courageous journey that requires survivors to prioritize their physical and mental well-being. Self-care plays a vital role in this healing process, as it helps reduce symptoms and improves overall well-being.

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we understand the importance of regular self-care practices for CSE survivors, empowering them to reclaim their lives and nurture their resilience. In this blog post, we will explore the significance of self-care in the lives of survivors and offer practical tips to incorporate it into daily routines.

Empowering through Self-Care:

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a necessity for CSE survivors. By engaging in regular self-care practices, survivors can recharge, reduce stress levels, and maintain their overall well-being. It involves finding activities that bring joy and making them a consistent part of one's routine. From learning self-soothing skills to prioritizing personal needs and practicing relaxation techniques, self-care is a powerful tool for survivors to regain control over their lives.

Navigating Trauma with Self-Care:

CSE and traumatic events often impact a survivor's sense of well-being, making it difficult to cope with everyday life. During this healing process, it is essential to allow ourselves to experience our emotions and find healthy ways to express them. Art therapy, meditation, and journaling are powerful tools that survivors can embrace to process their thoughts and feelings about the trauma. Engaging in positive activities helps focus on the beauty in life, fostering hope for the future while reducing emotional pain.

The Transformative Power of Journaling:

Among the many self-care strategies, journaling stands out as a valuable tool for survivors grappling with CSE or trauma. It offers numerous benefits, such as processing thoughts and feelings related to traumatic events, tracking mood changes, understanding personal responses to trauma, and allowing for self-reflection on coping mechanisms. By focusing on their feelings rather than the traumatic experience itself, survivors can embark on a journey of healing and discovery, finding solutions to problems and unlocking new ideas.

Physical Self-Care: Restoring Strength and Resilience:

After experiencing CSE, survivors may be healing from physical injuries and feeling emotionally drained. Prioritizing physical self-care is crucial during this time. Think back to a time when you felt physically healthy and consider reintegrating the following practices into your routine:

• Establishing a sleep ritual or nap pattern to promote restful sleep

• Nourishing your body with healthy and strengthening meals

• Engaging in exercise or activities that energize you

• Incorporating daily routines to start and end your day on a positive note

Emotional Self-Care: Nurturing Inner Peace and Balance:

Emotional self-care is deeply personal and varies for each survivor. The key lies in being attuned to yourself, allowing for a sense of balance and grounding. Reflect on moments when you felt joy and tranquility while considering the following practices:

• Engaging in fun or leisure activities that bring you happiness

• Writing down your thoughts in a journal or personal notebook

• Making meditation or relaxation activities part of your regular schedule

• Seeking inspiration from uplifting words, authors, or websites

• Connecting with supportive individuals or groups who create a safe space

• Spending time in places or environments that make you feel comfortable and grounded

Reclaiming Control through Connection:

Following a traumatic event, it is natural to avoid situations that remind us of the trauma, providing short-term relief. However, as time passes, these avoidances may limit opportunities for connection at work, home, and socially. It is essential for survivors to embrace these opportunities, taking back control and nurturing a sense of empowerment.

Self-care is a powerful pathway to healing, recovery, and empowerment for CSE survivors. At OPS, we prioritize the comprehensive well-being of survivors and offer a range of supportive services to assist them on their journey. Remember, self-care is not selfish - it is an act of self-compassion that nurtures resilience and empowers survivors to reclaim their lives. By embracing self-care practices, survivors can embark on a transformative journey towards healing, finding hope, strength, and community support along the way.

Meditation and Mental Health: A Healing Practice for Survivors

Let's explore the healing power of mindful deep breathing, especially for those who have experienced trauma from the world of CSE (commercial sexual exploitation).

Meditation can serve as a nurturing practice for trauma survivors, offering a safe space to navigate and release stored tension, fear, and pain. Engaging in regular meditation can gradually empower individuals to gain a sense of control, lower the intensity of trauma-related symptoms, and foster healing and personal growth.

So, how does meditation work for trauma?

Whether someone has experienced CSE or ongoing instances of trauma, the toll on mental health can be significant, potentially leading to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Meditation can benefit anyone who has experienced trauma, offering the opportunity to observe thoughts and sensations without judgment or reactivity. This practice can help lessen the distress associated with traumatic memories and create a safe environment for releasing stored tension and pain. It's important to note that while meditation can be a valuable tool for dealing with trauma, it is not a substitute for trauma-informed therapy.

Meditation's impact on mental health

Alongside trauma and PTSD, meditation can also benefit individuals grappling with various mental health conditions. This practice, when used in conjunction with therapy and medication as needed, can positively influence:

Anxiety disorders: Meditation can aid in reducing anxiety symptoms by promoting relaxation, mitigating stress, and enhancing mindfulness, empowering individuals to better manage anxious thoughts and emotions.

Depression: Meditation has the potential to alleviate symptoms of depression by fostering a more positive outlook, reducing rumination, and increasing self-awareness and self-compassion.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): Meditation practices focused on improving focus, attention, and self-regulation can benefit individuals with ADHD by aiding in the management of impulsivity, enhancing cognitive functioning, and reducing distractibility.

Substance use disorders: Meditation can support recovery from substance use disorders by lessening cravings, fostering self-awareness of triggers and urges, and providing a healthy coping mechanism for stress and emotional difficulties.

Sleep disorders: Meditation can enhance sleep quality and reduce insomnia by promoting relaxation, lessening anxiety, and calming the mind before bedtime.

It’s crucial to highlight that while meditation can complement mental health treatment, it is not a replacement for professional care. Consulting with a mental health professional is essential for a comprehensive assessment and the creation of an appropriate treatment plan.

Breathing practices for resilience

During traumatic situations, individuals may develop unhealthy breathing habits, impacting their well-being. Mindful deep breathing, commonly known as box breathing, can be a powerful tool for maintaining emotional balance. To enhance the effectiveness of your box breathing, consider the following strategies:

Try diaphragmatic deep breathing, which allows more oxygen to penetrate your lungs. By breathing deeply and expanding your abdomen when inhaling and contracting it when exhaling, you can optimize your breathing for greater well-being.

Find a comfortable position that supports good posture and enables deep breathing. Whether sitting in a comfortable chair with a sturdy back or lying flat on your back, ensure that your position allows for deep, nourishing breaths.

Harness the calming power of visualization. Envision a peaceful and tranquil place, whether real or imaginary, ensuring safety and calm. Engaging in this mental exercise can help slow down the brain, calming anxious thoughts.

Remember that mastering box breathing takes practice, and it's okay to feel discomfort initially. Dedication and consistency in this practice can lead to improved results and a sense of progress over time.

We invite you to save this post for a quick reminder and share it with those who may benefit from these resilience-building practices.

Additionally, consider joining our Movement & Mindfulness group, held every Tuesday from 1-2 pm, for more helpful strategies that promote healing and well-being.

Remember, you are deserving of healing, and we are here to support you every step of the way. Your well-being matters.

Recognizing the Signs of Manipulation and Taking Back Your Power

After a life of surviving commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) and trauma, it may feel like we're familiar with all the toxic signs of abuse. But what about the initial signs of manipulation, the ones that often go unnoticed until it's too late. Just like with abuse from exploitation and gaslighting, manipulation often starts with seemingly innocent behaviors that can have a deep and lasting impact.

What is Manipulation?

Manipulation is a harmful exercise of influence over others, attacking their mental and emotional well-being to fulfill the manipulator's desires. The manipulator seeks to create an imbalance of power and control, taking advantage of your vulnerabilities to get what they want.

It can happen in any type of relationship, but it's particularly common in close, intimate relationships. Manipulation involves attempting to sway someone's emotions, leading them to act or feel a certain way.

Signs of Manipulation

Manipulation can take on many forms, sometimes even masquerading as kindness, depending on the intent. Here are some common signs to look out for:

1. Knowing Your Weaknesses: Manipulators exploit your vulnerabilities.

2. Using Insecurities Against You: They leverage your insecurities to gain power over you.

3. Convincing You to Give Up Something Important: This makes you more dependent on them.

4. Location Advantage: Trying to bring you out of your comfort zone to gain control.

5. Manipulation of Facts: Lying, making excuses, or strategically sharing information to gain power over you.

6. Exaggeration and Generalization: Making vague accusations to manipulate your emotions.

7. Cruel Humor: Making you feel insecure to gain a sense of superiority.

8. Gaslighting: Confusing you and making you question your reality.

9. Passive Aggression: Expressing anger indirectly or through intentional mistakes.

10. Emotional and Social Bullying: Constant criticism, raised voices, threats, or deliberate exclusion.

11. Distortion: Twisting facts or withholding information.

12. Guilt and Sympathy: Playing the victim or leveraging past favors to evoke a sense of obligation.

13. Withdrawal: Punishing by ignoring.

14. Comparison: Comparing you to others to goad you or establish a sense of pressure.

15. Manipulation of Circumstance: Creating constraints or leading you into situations where they feel more powerful.

16. Love-Bombing: Showering praise and affection to bind you to them.

17. Constant Judging: Openly judging, ridiculing, or dismissing you.

Responding to Manipulation

Recognizing manipulation is a crucial step in taking back your power. It's important to understand that you're not at fault and that seeking help and support is essential. Here are some ways to address manipulation:

1. Communicate Clearly: Be direct in addressing manipulative behaviors.

2. Set Boundaries: Make it clear that you won't tolerate manipulation.

3. Seek Support: Reach out to a trusted individual who can provide objective advice.

If manipulation is coming from a loved one, seeking help can be incredibly challenging. However, prioritizing your own emotional well-being is crucial. Finding a safe way out of the situation is a key step toward reclaiming your agency and autonomy.

Recognizing manipulation can be a complex and emotional process, and it's essential to approach it with self-compassion and understanding. By identifying and addressing manipulative behaviors, survivors can begin to rebuild a sense of agency and control over their own lives. You deserve to be in relationships where your boundaries are respected and your well-being is prioritized.

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we provide comprehensive support and resources to survivors, empowering individuals to recognize and respond to manipulation while fostering healing and recovery. Together, we can build a community that prioritizes autonomy, agency, and support for all survivors of exploitation and abuse. Remember, you are not alone, and you deserve to be surrounded by compassion, respect, and empowerment.

How to Ask for Space and Time Alone: A Guilt-Free Journey to Self-Care

As survivors of Commercial Sexual Exploitation (CSE), our emotional needs were often neglected or dismissed when we mustered the strength to express them. Learning how to ask for and embrace time alone is a significant stride in healing our past traumas. Here’s your roadmap to guilt-free alone time:

1. Explore the Guilt

When guilt creeps in, grab a pen and paper. Start writing down your thoughts and feelings to untangle the web of emotions. Ask yourself:

• How can I feel guilty for taking care of myself?

• Why do I struggle to communicate my needs to others?

• Would I judge a friend for needing alone time or support them?

Leave your guilt on paper. Remember, caring for yourself benefits not just you, but everyone around you.

2. Communicate Your Needs

Expressing a desire for solitude doesn’t imply a disinterest in others; it signifies a need to nurture yourself to fully appreciate shared moments. Be unapologetic about your needs. Let others know when you require alone time or prefer staying in. This mutual support fosters a community of understanding and care.

3. Embrace Simplicity

Simplicity paves the way for self-care by:

• Allowing long, solitary walks for introspection.

• Establishing healthy boundaries.

• Enhancing clarity and reducing distractions.

• Focusing on what truly matters.

• Encouraging restful sleep.

• Listening to your body, heart, and soul.

• Validating your worthiness.

• Guiding you back to love by decluttering your life.

4. Be Alone Together

Quality time doesn’t always mean constant togetherness. Enjoy solitary activities alongside loved ones, maintaining individual space even in shared moments. For parents, engage children in activities while carving out moments for personal rejuvenation.

5. Identify Your Sanctuaries

Discover sanctuaries where you can recharge and find solace, whether it's a physical location or an immersive activity. Designate emergency “getaway spots” for quick breathers. Recognize knitting, writing, hiking, or other soul-nurturing practices as sacred retreats.

6. Set Boundaries with a 'No'

Learn to say 'no' when necessary to protect your mental and emotional well-being. Establish personal limits to prevent burnout and prioritize self-care without guilt.

7. Build a Reserve

Regularly invest in self-nurturing activities to replenish your emotional reserves. By proactively refueling, you can show up fully for your loved ones when needed.

Asking for space isn't a rejection; it's a celebration of self-care and a commitment to nurturing healthier relationships with others. Remember, it’s vital to prioritize your well-being by honoring your personal needs, emotions, and boundaries. Embrace time alone as an essential component of fostering resilience, self-discovery, and authentic connection with others.

The Healing Power of Survivor Support

In times of struggle, reaching out to loved ones can provide solace and acceptance, helping to alleviate the feelings of isolation and alienation. These connections can offer a lifeline, giving survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) a safe space to ventilate and accept the support offered by their family and friends.

However, beyond these personal networks, support groups play a crucial role in the healing journey of survivors. These groups offer a unique and understanding environment where individuals can connect with others who share similar experiences. Within these circles of trust, survivors find emotional support, validation, and a sense of belonging that can be incredibly empowering and healing.

The power of sharing stories, insights, and coping strategies with those who have endured similar challenges cannot be overstated. In these support groups, survivors find solace in the shared journey they're on. The process of divulging vulnerabilities and achievements in a safe space helps to reduce feelings of isolation and cultivate a profound sense of community. As survivors navigate the path towards healing, these support groups become invaluable resources, providing understanding, strength, and resilience.

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), our mission is to support individuals in or out of the life, without judgment, but with unwavering support. We work collaboratively with survivors, placing their needs at the forefront, to help them build a vision for the rest of their lives. We offer a comprehensive range of services designed to empower survivors in their journey towards healing and recovery.

Through case management, one-on-one advocacy, therapy sessions, and integrated movement therapy, we provide survivors with the tools they need to reclaim their lives. Our addiction and recovery support, coupled with referrals to housing resources, serve as crucial stepping stones towards stability and independence. Additionally, OPS offers community meals, therapeutic art workshops, yoga, peer engagement, employment services, leadership, and professional development opportunities. Our commitment extends beyond our organization, as we connect survivors to various community resources, assisting them on every step of their healing journey.

We invite survivors to join our Survivor Support Group, held every Thursday from 3:30-5pm. This safe space offers invaluable insights and an opportunity for healing to flourish. Each week, we explore different themes and topics relevant to survivor experiences, fostering a rich and dynamic environment for collective growth and empowerment.

Our Survivor Support Group sessions, held at OPS located at 112 SW 157th St, Burien, WA, 98166, are a testament to our unwavering dedication to and belief in the resilience of survivors. We strive to create an environment where survivors can find strength, support, and hope in the company of individuals who truly understand their journey.

At OPS, we believe that healing and recovery are attainable for every survivor of CSE. By fostering connection, offering support groups, and providing a comprehensive range of services, we aim to create a community where survivors can thrive and truly reclaim their lives. Together, we can break the cycle of gender-based violence and build a future rooted in compassion and empowerment.

Learning to Say No After CSE: Prioritizing Your Needs and Protecting Yourself

After a life in commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), it can be incredibly challenging to set boundaries and put your own needs first. In many cases, CSE survivors have learned that their bodies were not their own, which can make saying no after experiencing trauma even more difficult. But remember, it's not only okay, but necessary, to prioritize your own needs and safety.

The Importance of Learning to Say No After CSE

Learning to say no after enduring CSE is a crucial part of healing and protecting yourself. Unfortunately, re-victimization, or experiencing trauma again, is a common outcome of any abuse. For example, if you were sexually assaulted at a young age, you may have grown up with low self-esteem or struggled to stand up for yourself in similar instances because your boundaries had already been crossed.

In high-stress situations, it's not uncommon to dissociate, making it challenging to think clearly and rationally. However, there is hope. With therapy and support from others who provide safe spaces for us to be open and vulnerable, we can learn to address these wounds and reclaim our ability to say no.

We Need Time, Patience, and Practice

Learning to say no after CSE is a skill that takes time to develop. It's essential to give ourselves the necessary time to learn and grow. Setting boundaries may be a new experience for some survivors, and it calls for patience with ourselves. It's normal to experience setbacks along the way, but with time, patience, and practice, we can become better at asserting our boundaries.

In the beginning, you might find yourself saying no to everyone and everything. This may be an overcorrection to ensure that you don't send mixed messages, especially to family members. But as you continue on your healing journey, you will find the balance that feels right for you.

Stop, Take a Breath, and Ask for Time to Think

Remember, you don't have to provide an immediate response when someone asks something of you. Take a moment to breathe and consider your options. It's perfectly acceptable to say, "Let me think about it." Developing meditation skills can also be helpful in slowing down our minds, allowing us to respond intentionally rather than reactively. This is particularly valuable when dealing with difficult individuals who excel at pushing your buttons.

When you do say no, you have the choice to provide a clear reason if you decide to. However, it's equally important to remember that you don't owe anyone an explanation. Once you have made your decision, try to stick to it and let go of any guilt or second-guessing.

Embracing the Challenges and Building a Support System

Choosing to say no may come with consequences such as losing toxic family or friends who were accustomed to relying on you. Remember that those who remain in your life after setting boundaries are your true allies and supporters. They are the individuals who prioritize your wellbeing and contribute to a healthy and positive environment. Nurture these relationships and gently release the negative ones.

It's natural to feel fears, doubts, and insecurities when making these changes. If you find yourself overwhelmed or triggered by past traumas, it's highly recommended to seek professional support. They can help guide you through these challenging moments while providing the necessary tools for healing.

Start Small and Build Confidence

Taking the first step can be terrifying, so start small. Practice saying no to strangers or minor requests and gradually build your confidence. Create a list of individuals with whom you feel comfortable asserting boundaries and practice with them. As you gain experience, you will develop the resilience needed to say no to those closer to you and in more significant situations.

Remember, you don't owe anyone anything. Embrace the empowering statement that you have the right to prioritize your own needs and wellbeing.

Seek Advice and Use Your Support System

If you ever feel unsure or doubt your decisions, seeking advice from our staff can provide clarity. Talking it through with someone you trust can shed new light on the situation and help you make informed choices. Building a support system of compassionate individuals who have your best interests at heart is crucial during this journey.

Acknowledge Your Feelings and Focus on the Positive

While learning to say no can bring up feelings of guilt, anxiety, and disappointment, it's important to give yourself time to process and navigate these emotions. As you continue to prioritize yourself, you may experience a mix of guilt and pride. Choose to focus on the positive aspects of putting your needs first and remind yourself that you deserve to be heard and respected.

Remember, learning to say no can be uncomfortable but incredibly empowering. Through this process, you will discover who truly respects your boundaries and find the support system that empowers your growth. Consistency is key, and as you continue to ask yourself, "What do I need right now?", you will strengthen your ability to stand your ground and advocate for yourself.

The Transformative Power of Art for Mental Health for Survivors of CSE

At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we believe in the incredible potential of art to help survivors reflect, heal, and rediscover their inner strength. Let us explore together how art can benefit our mental health and pave the way towards resilience, empowerment, and community.

Expressing Emotions: A Path to Healing

Art serves as a creative outlet, allowing us to express and process emotions that are often difficult to put into words. Survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) face immense challenges, including feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. Art offers a powerful tool to release these emotions, promoting emotional catharsis and providing a sense of relief. Through art, we can give voice to our deepest emotions and find solace in the act of creation itself.

Art as a Pathway to Mental Health

Engaging in the arts has steadily gained popularity as a means to improve overall well-being. Participating in artistic endeavors has been found to help individuals cope with mental health conditions and psychological distress, offering an avenue for healing and restoration. The beauty lies in the fact that art allows us to improve our mental health through creativity, enabling us to express ourselves authentically, without the constraints of words. Embracing our artistic side grants us the power to nurture our mental health and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery.

Fostering Community through Art

Art possesses the unique ability to foster a sense of community and connection. As survivors, we may face isolation and a loss of social connections due to the impact of CSE. Through participation in our art workshops, we can rebuild these connections, extending our support systems within our communities. Engaging with others through artistic endeavors helps alleviate feelings of loneliness and isolation, creating opportunities for social interaction, camaraderie, and improved well-being.

Unveiling the Healing Power of Art

For over thirty years, scientific research has demonstrated that creative expression has the potential to affect not only our moods, attitudes, and emotions but also our physical well-being. Studies have shown that engaging in creative activities can reduce blood pressure, boost the immune system, and decrease stress. Furthermore, art promotes relaxation, a sense of well-being, and a reduction in anxiety, depression, and pain. It truly has the power to improve our quality of life, empowering us with a sense of purpose, accomplishment, and possibility. While the full understanding of how art heals trauma-related conditions continues to evolve, the opportunity for healing that art provides is both real and significant.

Expressive Arts and Personal Growth

Expressive arts encompass various mediums such as visual arts, movement, drama, music, and writing. These art forms hold the potential for deep personal growth and community development. Expressive art therapy allows us to laugh, let go, and relax, contributing to a decrease in depression, anxiety, and stress. By engaging in expressive arts, we can tap into our inner selves, connect with our emotions, and foster personal growth at our own pace. It gives us the opportunity to explore our unique stories and experiences in a safe and supportive environment.

Join Us: A Journey of Reflection, Healing, and Empowerment

At OPS, we invite you to join us on Tuesday from 3-5pm for an art workshop that delves into the profound potential of art in the healing process. This supportive and safe environment offers survivors an opportunity to engage in a variety of artistic activities that encourage self-expression, reflection, and connection with fellow survivors who understand and empathize with our journey. Together, we will explore the limitless potential of art to not only heal wounds but also ignites resilience and empowers each survivor on their unique path to healing.

Healing and Hope: The Vital Role of Mental Health Services for CSE Survivors

As survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), the journey of exiting out of  “the life” is just the beginning of a complex process of recovery and healing. The enduring trauma resulting from the manipulation and trauma bonding with traffickers or pimps, the sexual abuse, and the weight of emotional baggage unknowingly carried in our bodies necessitate the vital provision of mental health services for survivors like us.

Mental health professionals play a crucial role in providing, guidance, and support as we navigate the complex landscape of our experiences. They help us find both connection and individuality within our shared and unique stories, fostering a sense of belonging while honoring our distinct paths to healing.

The aftermath of trauma is not confined to the mind; it is a whole-body reaction that lingers long after the traumatic experience has passed. The physical toll of trauma, from muscle tension and migraines to cardiovascular issues and weakened immune responses, underscores the interconnectedness of our body and mind.

At The Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we understand the impact of CSE on mental health. We are committed to providing trauma-informed services that empower our participants and community to heal from and end the cycle of violence.

Our comprehensive range of services is designed to meet survivors exactly where they are, whether they are currently in or out of “the life”. Here, there is no judgment, only unwavering support. Our approach centers on collaborative work with survivors, identifying their needs, and building a vision for the rest of their lives.

OPS offers a multitude of services, including case management, one-on-one advocacy, support groups, therapy sessions, integrated movement therapy, addiction and recovery support, referrals to housing resources, community meals, art workshops, yoga, peer engagement, employment services, leadership and professional development, and connection to other community resources. Each of these services is specifically tailored to address the multifaceted needs of survivors, providing a holistic approach to healing and recovery.

We recognize that achieving lasting healing from trauma necessitates empowerment and autonomy. By validating the suffering of survivors and providing a safe and healthy space for them to reclaim their lives, we set the stage for impactful and sustainable progress. Importantly, by listening to survivor voices and experiences, we gain a deeper understanding of the root causes of the conflict and the unique needs of those most affected by it.

Empowerment encompasses more than immediate support; it includes providing access to education, vocational training, and healthcare—essential components for creating opportunities and livelihoods beyond mere subsistence living.

As survivors, we deserve compassion, respect, and the comprehensive support needed to find our way to healing and hope. At OPS, we stand together as a community, advocating for survivor-centered care and working towards the collective goal of ending gender-based violence and exploitation.

In the journey toward healing, remember that you are not alone. Together, we create a space where survivors can find their voices, reclaim their power, and chart a path to a brighter future.

You are not just a survivor; you are a resilient, courageous individual with the strength to shape your own story.

If you or someone you know is in need of support, reach out and let's walk this path together. Healing is possible, and hope is within reach.

Why Survivors of Commercial Sexual Exploitation Don't Often Ask for Help

Today, we delve into understanding why many survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) might hold back from seeking the help they want and deserve. We shed light on the many reasons that can impair the road to recovery, each as valid and complex as the other.

Walking hand-in-hand with Betrayal

When the individuals who were pledged to provide love, care, and protection instead inflict emotional betrayal, it shatters trust. When the very people we counted on to protect and cherish us betray our trust, it shatters our belief in the sincerity of support, making it conditional at best.  This kind of toxicity often shapes one's adult life, making it hard to believe in others' genuine loving support.

Shame

Shame engulfs many survivors, depending on the nature of their trauma. Survivors beaten, verbally or sexually abused or trafficked by a primary caregiver can misinterpret this abuse as their own fault. Carrying this shame into adulthood can magnify these feelings, making them feel 'unworthy' of healing, love, and protection. OPS wants to reassure you all: The shame is not yours. The fault lies with the abuser.

Trauma Bonds

Characteristics of traumatic bonding – which includes intermittent positive and negative reinforcement – can harbor a deep, toxic bond between the abuser and the survivor. The interchange of abuse and 'kindness' can foster a dangerously strong bond between the abuser and the survivor, often nurturing a false hope for better days.  In OPS, we strive to break those bonds, offering a supportive space for healing and understanding.

The Stranglehold of Learned Helplessness

A term coined by Martin Seligman, learned helplessness refers to the condition where individuals stop trying to escape from their negative situation. Instead of inability, it's the ingrained belief of helplessness that restrains survivors, leading them to accept abuse as their unchangeable reality.

Repeating Past Patterns

Survivors often fall in sync with what feels familiar, even if it's an unhealthy relationship. When toxicity is a familiar landscape, healthy bonds may appear alien and discomforting. At OPS, we believe there is a life beyond the known. Healthy relationships shouldn't be feared but embraced, and toxicity shouldn't be the 'normal' pursuit.

Unraveling the Journey to Healing

OPS offers a compassionate and understanding space to process your traumas, free from judgment. Our strong, survivor-focused community is committed to the healing and recovery process, holding an unwavering belief that everyone can reach a place of safety and empowerment.

Remember, every voice matters in combating commercial sexual exploitation. We honor your strength and resilience for joining us in shedding light on these issues, in the pursuit of a supportive, empathetic world free from gender-based violence and sexual exploitation. Because at OPS, survivors aren't just heard; they're seen, understood, and empowered.

Listening to Your Body: Nurturing Wellness after Surviving CSE

Our bodies have a remarkable way of communicating with us, providing valuable information about our overall health. Each day, the symptoms we experience act as signals, offering insights into our emotional and physical well-being. However, as survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE) and sexual assault (SA), many of us are familiar with the disconnection from our bodies and the signals they send.

In this blog post, we want to explore the importance of reconnecting with our bodies and actively listening to the cues they provide. By acknowledging and responding to these signals, we can empower ourselves to better understand our emotional and physical needs, facilitating the healing journey and promoting overall wellness.

The Power of Pain as a Warning Light

Pain serves as a potent warning light from our bodies, conveying a range of messages. It may indicate a strained muscle, a need for immediate medical attention, or even an emotional response resulting from trauma. However, when we have shut off our emotions due to pain or trauma, we can lose touch with our ability to recognize what we need both emotionally and physically.

Emotional and Physical Signals: Cues to Act

Rebuilding that connection with our bodies starts with focusing on the signals they send us and developing an awareness of their cues. These signals can manifest in various ways and encompass both emotional and physical indicators.

For instance:

Emotional: "I am feeling worried and a little agitated."

Physical: "My heart is beating fast, and my shoulders feel tense."

By recognizing the correlations between these signals, we gain insight into the experiences we are going through. In the example mentioned above, the signals may indicate some level of anxiety.

Taking Action: Empowering Self-Care

Effectively managing our symptoms is pivotal to fostering a sense of well-being. Consequently, the next step is to initiate open conversations with the staff here at OPS. Together, we can create personalized plans outlining actionable steps to take when we notice these signals. By addressing them early on, we can prevent symptoms from accumulating and becoming overwhelming.

Here are some examples of empowering self-care techniques to consider:

1.     Managing Worries: In times of worry, try writing down any negative thoughts you may be experiencing and then reframe them into more positive thoughts. This exercise can help shift your perspective and promote a sense of emotional balance.

2.     Physical Movement: If you notice tension in your muscles, reaching out to a friend for a walk can do wonders. Engaging in physical activities not only increases blood circulation and oxygen flow but also provides an opportunity for meaningful connection and quality time with loved ones.

3.     Engaging in Exercise: Incorporating regular physical activity into your routine can play a crucial role in preventing symptoms from escalating. Whether it's taking brisk walks a few times a week or participating in enjoyable physical activities, find what makes you feel good and prioritize it.

4.     Creating a Support Network: Collaborate with your treatment team to develop a step-by-step plan for seeking support when symptoms arise. Involving friends or family members who can be relied upon and compiling a list of relevant contact numbers can provide added reassurance during challenging times.

5.     Keeping a Journal: Maintaining a daily journal can be a valuable tool for self-reflection. Document how you're feeling, your eating habits, and the quality of your sleep. This practice can help you stay attuned to your body's needs.

6.     Self-Advocacy: Remember to advocate for yourself by prioritizing both your mental and physical health.

Honoring Your Body and Nurturing Wellness

Even though tuning in to our bodies can sometimes feel challenging, cultivating this habit is invaluable on our healing journeys. Listening to our bodies means mindfully acknowledging our regular state of being and being attuned to when things feel different. It is important to note that this practice does not necessarily translate into seeking medical attention for every minor discomfort unless directed to do so by your healthcare provider.

At OPS, we understand the significance of reclaiming agency over your body and personal well-being. If you are looking for additional support on this transformative journey, we invite you to join our Movement & Mindfulness Class, held every Tuesday from 1pm-2pm. This safe and inclusive space offers opportunities for connection, growth, and empowerment.

Remember, your body is resilient, and you have the power to nurture your wellness. By actively listening to your body, recognizing its signals, and taking proactive steps towards self-care, you are not only honoring your experiences but also building a foundation for healing and long-term well-being.

Empowering Survivors: Setting Boundaries for Healing and Autonomy

Dear survivor,

Navigating life after trauma can leave us feeling adrift without the guideposts of healthy boundaries. But within you lies the power to reclaim control over your life and well-being.

Boundaries, like gentle stop signs along your journey, play a crucial role in safeguarding your mental and emotional health. It's essential to recognize that where you draw these lines and define what crosses them is deeply personal, influenced by your beliefs, values, and cultural background.

As you embark on the journey of setting healthy boundaries, here are some empowering tips to guide you along the way:

Goal-Setting: Take a moment to reflect on the purpose behind each boundary. By clarifying your intentions, you empower yourself to assert your needs confidently.

Start Small: Setting boundaries can feel daunting. Remember, progress is a step-by-step process. Begin with one boundary, focusing on it before moving to others.

Be Clear: Effective communication is key. Articulate your needs honestly and assertively, expressing what you deserve in a clear manner.

Practice, Practice, Practice: If the idea of setting boundaries feels overwhelming, remember that you are not alone. Consider rehearsing what you want to say or practicing in front of a mirror to build confidence in expressing your truth.

Keep it Simple: Remember, simplicity is key in boundary setting. Focus on addressing the main issue bothering you directly without overloading others with unnecessary details.

Remember, survivor, setting healthy boundaries is an act of self-care, self-respect, and empowerment.

Learning to say no after trauma can feel like stepping on someone's toes without stopping to apologize. In other words, it can feel harsh, cruel, rude, and downright awful to set a boundary or put your needs first. During experiences of sexual assault and commercial sexual exploitation, we may learn that our bodies are not our own, which makes saying no after trauma very difficult.

It's okay — and necessary — to prioritize your own needs and safety.

The Importance of Learning to Say No After Trauma

Learning to say no after enduring trauma, especially abuse of any sort, is a crucial part of healing and protecting yourself. The recurrence of the same trauma on a particular individual, known as (re)victimization, is a common outcome of abuse. Survivors of assault may be able to address these wounds and say no in such situations with therapy.

Learning to Say No After Trauma

Work on setting boundaries in various aspects of your life, from your career to your relationships.

Even though it's uncomfortable, learning to say no can be empowering. Additionally, it can help you find the right support system. If someone doesn't respect your boundaries, you quickly discover they aren't for you.

By continuing to honor yourself and your own needs, you are building the strength to stand your ground and have your own back. Consistency is key, and the more you ask yourself, "What do I need right now?" the more you learn about and respect yourself.

If you find yourself needing support or guidance on this journey, OPS stands ready to accompany you. Our comprehensive services are designed to uplift and empower survivors just like you. Share this post to spread awareness and support others on their path to setting boundaries and reclaiming their voice.

Together, we can create a world where every survivor's boundaries are respected, honored, and cherished. You are not alone in this journey toward healing and empowerment.

With care and solidarity,

The Organization for Prostitution Survivors

Embracing Inner Child Healing Through Play: A Guide for Survivors of CSE

Welcome to a journey of self-discovery and healing through the power of play. At the Organization for Prostitution Survivors (OPS), we understand the importance of nurturing your inner child to promote healing, resilience, and empowerment. Letting your inner child come out to play is not only enjoyable but also a crucial step in reducing stress, increasing creativity, and fostering a sense of connection with yourself and others.

As survivors of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), the path to healing can be profound and challenging. Engaging in inner child play can help you reconnect with parts of yourself that may have been overshadowed by trauma. By tapping into your inner child's joy, curiosity, and creativity, you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing.

Understanding Inner Child Work

Inner child play is a fundamental aspect of inner child work, a practice that acknowledges and addresses unresolved pain from childhood experiences. As adults, we carry within us an inner child that may have experienced fear, sadness, or shame. Through inner child work, we can provide the care, love, and attention needed to help that inner child heal and integrate into our adult selves.

By revisiting our childhood experiences, identifying what was lacking, and embracing activities that promote play and imagination, we can start to heal the wounds of the past and cultivate a sense of wholeness in the present.

Benefits of Inner Child Play

The benefits of inner child play are manifold. Engaging in playful activities can help increase self-awareness, bring joy, reduce anxiety, instill a sense of freedom and safety, and inspire a desire to prioritize play in your life. By reconnecting with your inner child, you can tap into a wellspring of creativity, vitality, and resilience.

Ways to Integrate Inner Child Play into Your Life

Inner child play comes in various forms, from simple activities like dancing, singing, and drawing to more immersive experiences like painting, exploring nature, or engaging in outdoor adventures. The key is to engage in activities that bring you joy, evoke nostalgia, and allow you to tap into your inner child's sense of wonder and curiosity.

Making Time for Inner Child Play

As adults with busy schedules and responsibilities, finding time for inner child play can be challenging. However, incorporating playful activities into your daily routine is essential for nurturing your inner child and promoting healing. Scheduling time for play, whether it's dancing during chores, painting with loved ones, or having impromptu dance parties, can help you infuse joy and spontaneity into your life.

Remember, inner child play is not about perfection or productivity—it's about embracing the present moment, tapping into your creativity, and finding joy in the simple pleasures of life. By allowing your inner child to come out and play, you can embark on a journey of healing, self-discovery, and empowerment.

At OPS, we stand with you on your path to healing and recovery. Remember, your inner child is a precious part of who you are, deserving of love, care, and play. Embrace the joy of play, and let your inner child guide you towards a brighter, more resilient future.

Together, we heal. Together, we thrive. You are not alone.

If you or someone you know is in need of support, please reach out to OPS for compassionate and survivor-centered services. We are here to empower you on your journey towards healing and wholeness.

Reflecting and Reforming: A New Narrative for Sexual Assault Awareness Month

April marks Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM), a month dedicated to unifying advocates, survivors, their allies, and communities in the discourse on sexual violence.

It's a time where we fill the gaps in understanding, strengthen our solidarity with survivors, and pinpoint the means to avert sexual violence.

Grounded at the center of these efforts is the task of rewriting the narrative of sexual assault, a critical mission that calls for our shared courage and commitment.

New Conversations: Centering the Survivor's Wisdom

Prompting lasting changes requires us to unearth and dismantle the stigma cloaking sexual assault. We confront deep-rooted beliefs and confess that those inflicting sexual violence aren't just shadowy figures barely visible on society's fringe. They could be people within our seemingly trusted circles - friends, partners, esteemed community members.

The scope of sexual violence is broad, covering acts that, while not fueled by malicious intent, etches profound marks on survivors.

Situations where consent is obscured, forced, or disregarded need to break free from the shadows and into open dialogues - safe spaces free from disbelief or dismissal.

Learning, Not Solely Punishing

Changing the narrative also means recognizing that punitive measures alone cannot fully address the roots of sexual violence. While accountability is crucial, education and constructive dialogue play essential roles in fostering understanding and remediation.

This entails crafting an environment where every act of sexual misconduct is recognized, addressed, and where those at risk of committing such actions are taught to grasp the tremendous weight of consent and respect in every interaction.

It's a path where we can actively involve individuals in personal growth and learning, with the objective of preventing future harm and fostering healthier, respectful relationships.

Rewriting the Narrative: Actions for Change

The process of redefining the narrative can begin with seemingly small, but considerably potent actions - voicing our opposition to sexual harassment when detected, shunning language that objectifies or demeans and utilizing every opportunity to discuss consent and respect.

To address and prevent sexual violence, we need to battle its presence within educational institutions and advocate for a comprehensive education focusing on respect and informed consent from a young age.

Similarly, institutions should embrace zero-tolerance policies towards violence against women, unequivocally reflecting our collective stance that no form of violence will find refuge within our societies.

Looking Ahead

As we observe SAAM, let our commitment extend beyond merely extending our support to survivors and amplifying their voices. Let us actively participate in reconstructing the societal narratives surrounding sexual violence.

By introspecting our beliefs, challenging detrimental stereotypes, and opening ourselves to constructive paths of change, we can contribute to a world where sexual violence encounters the full might of our shared refusal to accept it.

Together, we can rewrite the narrative. Together, we can shape a difference. No matter how long the road or challenging the journey, the shared power of our voices and actions will guide us towards a safer, more respectful society that firmly stands by survivors. Remember, you are not alone - we are with you, for you. Stay strong, keep fighting.

Exploring Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) in the Context of Commercial Sexual Exploitation (CSE)

Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) is a complex issue that demands our awareness and understanding. Defined as damage to the brain caused by external physical force, TBIs can have lasting impacts on individuals' lives. While the causes of TBIs vary, it's crucial to acknowledge how incidents of trauma, particularly within the realm of commercial sexual exploitation (CSE), can lead to TBI.

In the context of CSE, individuals may experience TBI due to physical violence inflicted by perpetrators. Acts such as aggressive shaking, strangulation, blows to the head, and falls can result in traumatic brain injuries. These injuries often go unrecognized and untreated, leading to a cycle of revictimization and potential long-term neurological damage.

It's disheartening to note that many survivors who experience TBI may not even be aware of their condition. Symptoms of TBI, such as cognitive impairments, memory issues, and behavioral challenges, can be misattributed to mental health issues, delaying proper diagnosis and appropriate care.

Understanding the signs and symptoms of TBI is crucial for survivors and their allies. If you or someone you know has experienced any form of trauma that may have led to a TBI, seeking help from a qualified medical professional is paramount. Early detection and intervention can significantly impact recovery and long-term outcomes.

Survivors of CSE who have experienced TBI may face a myriad of challenges, from cognitive impairments to difficulties in social interactions and emotional regulation. However, it's essential to remember that there are strategies to manage these challenges and promote healing and well-being.

Common Challenges Related to Brain Injury and Ideas to Help You Manage Them

Nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety, or withdrawal

• Focus on your breath and practice calming techniques.

• Engage in activities you enjoy to distract yourself from distressing thoughts.

• Seek support from trusted individuals, such as friends, family, or counselors.

Trouble remembering things, planning, or organizing

• Use organizational tools like planners and apps to stay on top of tasks.

• Establish routines and habits to assist in memory retention.

• Break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Sensitivity to light or sound, or vision problems

• Adjust your environment to reduce exposure to triggers like bright lights or loud noises.

• Consult an eye doctor if vision problems persist.

• Take breaks and create a calm, quiet workspace to minimize distractions.

Difficulty understanding information, problem-solving, or concentrating

• Communicate your needs for slower-speaking individuals.

• Break tasks into smaller, more manageable segments.

• Focus on one task at a time to enhance concentration and problem-solving abilities.

By acknowledging the intersection of trauma, TBI, and commercial sexual exploitation, we can work towards creating a more informed and supportive environment for survivors. Together, we can empower individuals to seek help, heal, and thrive beyond their past experiences.